We beg your pardon; we must be allowed to insist here that you are not a normal person. You are in big trouble and no one can help you but yourself. Being gay/homosexual is an unnatural deviation and very unacceptable in Islam. We do not know if you are married (with or without kids) or not and if you have practiced the sin of sodomy of not. We deduce from your words that your problem is complicated, especially that you are a school teacher, who is supposed to be a role-model for his students who respect him. while your students look up to you with due respect, you look at them lustfully as sex objects. What a shame! You are deceiving this student who is your friend who trusts you; he sees you as a big brother and a dear friend and advisor, while you love him in a not very innocent or not exactly platonic way! Tour conflict is between his respect and brotherly love to you and you lusting over him, missed with your fear of being scandalized. Besides, you are afraid to lose your dignity and self-respect and fear losing him forever. Our advice to you is to at once break your friendship with this student/friend forever, while get yourself busy in charity acts and good deeds plus a good hobby like reading. If possible, move into another house and city, and change the school you work in. if you are not married yet, get married if you possibly can. At least, get engaged to a young woman in order to develop a normal relationship that will go on with getting married. Therefore, you must change your lifestyle completely so that you retrieve your self-respect and so as not to lose yourself. Think of yourself 30 years from now; how would you live while feeling ashamed of anything in your past? What about the possibility of being scandalized at work? How can you face people in that case? You are to take a serious stance right now; this very moment. You are the only one who can help yourself to save your soul from perdition and eternal damnation. You still have the chance to repent, to restore your faith, and to act righteously and piously. You should perform many good deeds and acts of charity. Begin reforming yourself today.
Not A Normal Person
آحمد صبحي منصور في الإثنين ١٩ - ديسمبر - ٢٠١٦ ١٢:٠٠ صباحاً
نص السؤال
Not A Normal Person
Published in June 6, 2013
Translated by: Ahmed Fathy
Question:… I think I am a very normal person; my problem is that I feel attracted to handsome men, leering at them with lust, though I m a man. I cannot help it; this feeling is beyond my control. Frankly, one of my male friends is ten years my junior; I think I love him very much, but he does not know anything about my hidden feelings nor about my sexual orientation. I have stood by him within all his problems and daily situations in which he needed help; I even urge him to become more religious and to have a strong, upright character and personality. He is looking up to me as role-model and a big brother to him; I cannot tell him I am gay so as not to shock him; I cannot help thinking of him and fancying him in bed, all day long. Shall I move away from him and break our friendship? I cannot understand the nature of gay love; is it pure lust of something romantic? Shall I be frank with my orientation to make him desert me in disgust?! I fear I might kiss him one day; he is 100% heterosexual, and I know it, he will never accept befriending me if he would know I am gay. I feel weak before him and fear losing him, and I love to be at his service to help him in anything; I wish I can still be there to make him happy. By the way, I am his teacher at high school. I am afraid of making God hating me! Sometimes, our close friendship makes him talk to me for hours on end within our phone calls by night; he seeks my advice in almost all aspects of his life, as he trusts me very much. please, Dr. Mansour, help me because my pangs of conscience are unbearable!
آحمد صبحي منصور
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